Comments on: My 17 Year Old Son Has Been Invited To Go On A Beach Vacation?

By: Joy W

Joy W — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:15:32 +0000

i agree! even though he may think is unfair its the right decision for his life, good job!!

By: Vera Gabriele

Vera Gabriele — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:15:32 +0000

There is not much I can say if you don’t change your mind regardless…but at age 17 you as his mom must know your son well enough to know if you can trust him.. I would also have some faith in the parents of the 18 year old friend.. they will be going also.. which if I had misgivings would make me change my mind.. they are not there unsupervised.. and quite apart from that. If your son wanted to really get together with this 15 year old girl.. he could not really be stopped because he could meet her maybe not on this vacation but he could if so inclined meet her after their return…and I think it is safer and better that he meets her when 2 adults are present at that holiday than meeting her somewhere after school where nobody is present …So I would trust my son a bit and tell him to act responsibily…and tell him that I have faith in him and I hope he won’t let me down.. at age 17 your son is old enough to know about safe sex….and maybe this 15 year old girl is not ready and just because she is 15 and her sister aged 17 has a boyfriend does not necessarily mean her little sister also wants to become intimate with a boy.. she may want to become friends and wait and nothing will happen and they will just be friend for one year and maybe then if they still care for one another this girl will be old enough also to know about the dangers of pregnancy if she does not practise safe sex… she will know all of that by now through her elder sister who i am sure likes to be with her 18 year old BF but has no intention of becoming a mother just yet so I am sure the 17 year old is taking precaution to prevent a pregnancy and your sons friend will have been tought by his parents to act responsibly and to make sure he does not become a father at age 18… If I was in your place I would invite your sons friend and girlfriend and his parents and discuss with them your concerns and this also would give you an opportunity to form an opionon about these people…Perhaps you will come to like them and they will make sure that nothing happens between your son and this young girl.. I would at least talk to them and after that based on the outcome of the discussion make my judgment but keep an open mind until then.
I am 45 years old so you are not talking to an immature teenager.. I am a middle aged woman and most likely a lot older than you are xx

By: connie y

connie y — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:15:31 +0000

i guess that was my first thought. i think that if my son were an all around good kid that trusts has to play a part in this. i think that by not allowing him to go, you are saying you do not trust him. if this 15 year old girl is his best friends’, girlfriends’ sister, then i think that he already has easy interactions with her. if he goes out of the house at any time, do you really know what he is doing or who he is hanging out with, unless you follow him around. i would say that trust is what is at stake. there is suppose to be a parent with them.

By: average jane

average jane — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:15:31 +0000

Depends on how well you know the family and the girls. Does he know her? Do they have a platonic relationship. I had many platonic realtionships w/guys at that age. But it does sound a little awkward for him. Obviously they will be hanging out together; it’s not like the sister is going to go off by herself. I think your reaoning is understnadable, but if you do want to give him the chanse to go, I would talk about this in great detail. good luck.

By: Lizzie

Lizzie — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:15:31 +0000

I think you should let him go because if hes gonna hook up w/ the 15 yr old he will do it regardless of he go or not. You should be happy he told you about this cuz he could of just not mention the 15 yr old girl at all. So you should trust him and let him go and enjoy his teenage life!!

By: Gyasi M

Gyasi M — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:15:31 +0000

Gotta say no. You obviously don’t know the Supervising parents well enough. And you obviously feel that your 17 yr old is already letting his hormones get the best of him so that you don’t really trust him deep down inside.
Go with your Gut!

By: Kaylee B

Kaylee B — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:15:31 +0000

just let him go.
he is 17 you cant hold on to him forever just think. when you were a kid, and your mom dident let you do something wouldent you e mad. i would think twice.

By: I ♥ my Irishman!

I ♥ my Irishman! — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:15:31 +0000

if you know the parents of the 18 year old and they’re trust worthy, i don’t see the problem…it’s not like it’s all teens

By: Combination Door Locks

Combination Door Locks — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:15:31 +0000

I agree with you because letting him go will invite trouble. Stick to your guns.

By: Baby Bath Games

Baby Bath Games — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:15:31 +0000

I think you absolutely made the right call.